dungeons and dragons my way.
With seven years of BDSM experience under my belt and continually learning more, I’m passionate about creating spaces where you feel safe to be undone by My touch. I love working with all genders, backgrounds and orientations, including couples.
I offer a sliding scale for my services for other industry folks, LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, Disabled, or otherwise systematically marginalized folks. Please indicate if you’re interested in learning more in your booking message.
Currently booking scenes in Philly.
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Scenes take time, negotiation, buildup, and aftercare. Each scene requires these elements and will never be skipped.
I practice RACK, which stands for Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. It’s an approach to kink that fully acknowledges both the intensity and the inherent risks involved, while placing informed, enthusiastic, and ongoing consent at the center of every interaction.
In my scenes, RACK isn’t just a concept but an active commitment. It reflects my values of radical self-responsibility, clear communication, and unwavering respect for consent and personal boundaries.
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Experiences that I’m particularly good at curating include:
Impact (Flogging, Canes, Paddles, PVC, Spanking)Bondage (Handcuffs, restraints, duct tape, cuffs, etc)
Pet Play (Puppy, Piggy, etc)
Consensual Non Consent (CNC)
ABDL
Body Worship / Foot Worship
Golden Showers
Anal Training
Findom
Humiliation
Degradation
Electricity Play
Wax Play
Sensory Play
Sensory Deprivation
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Foot Worship: $100 for 15 minutes
2 hour scene: $900
3 hour scene: $1200
Not in Philly?
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Can I get to you by train? This covers my train travel fees for cities along the East Coast (New York, DC, Richmond) up to 2 hours away.
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I know what you’re thinking - dear god, will this human be coming my way anytime soon? Guess what, I navigate airports like a pro and I’ll gladly come to you for an adventure.
Etiquette
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If this is your first time reaching out for professional BDSM, congratulations!
You’ve already proven to have more courage than most.
The first step is always the hardest and it’s totally normal to feel nervous.
My advice for first-timers centers around basic self-care.
-Make sure you’re hydrated, nourished, and well-rested.
-Avoid intoxicating substances leading up to your session.
-Do some research about your desired activities so you have an idea of what to expect
-If you anticipate anal play in your session, make sure to prepare properly.
-Try to schedule plenty of time to rest and process your experience after the session.
A little preparation goes a long way towards having a great first experience!
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A 50% deposit is required for all travel bookings ; 20% deposit is required for all local bookings.
Deposits can be made via:
Cash App: $AlexxxWilde
Paypal:paypal.me/YourAlexWilde
Your appointment will not be secured on My calendar until the deposit is received.
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I require a minimum 48 hours notice for all cancellations (7 days for FMTY). With appropriate notice, your deposit can be applied to a rescheduled booking within the next 3 months.
For cancellations within the 48 hour window, I require a 50% cancellation fee.
For FMTY cancelled within the 7 day window, your deposit will be forfeit.
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I practice excellent hygiene and expect you to do the same. That means freshly showered, teeth brushed and flossed, tongue scraped, lotion applied, hair brushed, nails clean and neat, deodorant applied and appropriate for the occasion clothing.
Please do NOT douse yourself in cologne or perfume as I am sensitive to strong smells.
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If we are planning on engaging in a BDSM driven scene, I make sure to go over the risks of each activity before engaging in it with My submissive. I also take any health conditions and physical injuries into consideration when planning and executing each scene.
Consent is mandatory. If there isn’t clear, ongoing consent then that’s a red flag! I have a conversation at the beginning of each session with My submissive to identify hard limits and gauge the areas of greater interest. Even when partaking in edge play such as Consensual Non-Consent (CNC), clear consent is still mandatory throughout the scene.
I prefer using the “Green-Yellow-Red” system for communicating consent during sessions together.
”Green” means “I love this, keep going”
“Yellow” means “You’re reaching my limit and I need you to slow down, but stay engaged in the scene. No need to stop.”
“Red” means “Stop what you’re doing and check in.” The scene may be over after this or continue on, based on the checkin conversation we have. Red can be used to stop for any reason - physically, emotionally or mentally.
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Safety is my number one priority.
Alcohol in slight moderation is allowed (such as a glass or two of wine at dinner), but ANY signs of intoxication will give me the right to refuse and cancel our time together without a refund.
No hard substances will be allowed on our date.
This policy is set purely with safety in mind.
It do not discriminate against people who use intoxicating substances.
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Rates are for my time and companionship only. Anything beyond that is between two consenting adults. Let’s practice sharing and asking for what we desire!