Hi darlings, I’m Alex (they/he) Wilde.

Born and raised in Kenya, with a well-worn passport and a Sagittarian heart, I fully lean into my adventurous spirit and constant thirst for knowledge. I’m drawn to movement, to curiosity, to the kind of experiences that wake you up. Mountains, valleys, deserts- and just as much, minds, hearts, and bodies. With that natural fire for life comes a deep love for humans, connection, and exploration in all its forms.

I grew up in a hyper-religious environment that made embracing my identity as queer and trans not just difficult, but costly. Choosing myself meant navigating rejection, loss, and rebuilding from the ground up. That journey fundamentally shaped how I move through the world now, and especially how I create space for others. I know what it takes to unlearn shame. I know how powerful it is to step into desire with intention, safety, and support. Creating containers where people can explore, soften, and feel fully themselves is something I care about deeply.

Over the last 13 years, I’ve been committed to deconstructing shame, embracing kink, and living in my body with curiosity and joy. My work centers kink and sex education, trans visibility, and helping people reconnect with pleasure, agency, and aliveness without apology.

If you’re looking for a confident, charming companion for a romantic dinner, someone to help you tackle the ultimate Lego set, or an adventure partner to finally cross something off your bucket list, we’re likely to get along very well. I love learning, traveling, dancing, cooking, being pampered, and laughing often. Presence matters to me. So does play.

Some favorite date ideas

  • Spa getaways

  • Rave nights with your favorite DJ

  • Sports games (I just want to yell)

  • Tasting menus and culinary adventures

  • Cooking classes or taking a class together

  • Live lectures

  • Live music, theatre, and shows

  • Mani/pedi dates

  • Your favorite restaurant

Where are we going? 🥰

Looking for something a little spicier?

I’ve been active in the kink scene for over seven years, exploring BDSM, domination, and sense play. I prioritize safety, enthusiastic consent, clear screening, and deep respect for privacy. My approach to kink is intentional, attentive, and grounded : playful when it should be, reverent when it needs to be, and always consensual.

I’m confident in my ability to connect in ways that feel expansive, grounding, and unforgettable.

Some of my hell yes interests include:

  • Impact

  • Bondage

  • Pet Play

  • ABDL

  • Body Worship

  • Pegging

  • Golden Showers

  • Anal Training

  • Humiliation

  • Degradation

If you have a fantasy not listed here, tell me. I genuinely love learning what lights people up.

My absolute no’s: scat, blood, race play.

Whether you’re craving a romantic dinner, quiet cuddles, the fall of my flogger on your ass, or a delicious mix of it all, you’ve found your person.

Come as you are. Curious, tender, bold, unsure.
Let’s explore what it means to feel fully alive and fully Wilde.

About Alex