Hi darlings, I’m Alex (they/he) Wilde.

I’m a transmasc, nonbinary Dom, content creator, and overall kinky human! I love community, queer joy and ethical slutiness.

I was raised in Nairobi, Kenya, in a hyper-religious environment where I did not have the safety or support to embrace my queerness. Leaving that world cost me community, certainty, and safety, but it gave me authorship to deconstruct and rebuild my life in New York City, and through that process, I found so much joy.

Whether through content, conversation, or structured submission, I create containers where people are invited to get honest about their desires, their limits, their conditioning, and their responsibility to one another.

I care deeply about making authentic content that’s real, unscripted and includes laughter and real life moments. I like to tell people “I don’t make porn. I let you watch me having authentic sex.” I work with people of all genders, backgrounds and orientations!

Over the last 13 years, I’ve been committed to deconstructing shame, embracing kink, and living in my body with curiosity and joy. My work centers kink and sex education, trans visibility, and helping people reconnect with pleasure, agency, and aliveness without apology.

If you’re looking for a confident, charming companion for a romantic dinner, someone to help you tackle the ultimate Lego set, or an adventure partner to finally cross something off your bucket list, we’re likely to get along very well. I love learning, traveling, dancing, cooking, being pampered, and laughing often. Presence matters to me. So does play.

Whether you’re craving a romantic dinner, quiet cuddles, the fall of my flogger on your ass, or a delicious mix of it all, you’ve found your person.

Come as you are. Curious, tender, bold, unsure. Let’s explore what it means to feel fully alive and fully Wilde.