What do you desire?

Whether you’re looking for a professional boyfriend or a kinky scene that will leave you grounded and satisfied, I’m here to give you what you want. I love working with all genders, backgrounds and orientations, including couples.

Sliding Scale

I offer a sliding scale for my services to be accessible to as many folks as possible. Please take a moment to carefully consider where you fall on this scale.

  • Choose this option if many of the following apply to you and perhaps a a partner who has the same:
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    I have a relatively high degree of earning power, income, and/or wealth due to my family, marriage, education, gender / gender identity / sexual orientation, race, age, ability, or other privilege.

    ​I inherited, earned, or otherwise have money, home(s), land, or other wealth.

    I have a secure, well-paying job with good benefits.

    ​I own or rent my home(s), and I easily pay the utilities, property taxes, and/or upkeep.

    ​I have significant savings, investments, or retirement accounts.

    I can afford not to work, to work part time, or for less pay, and without financial burden.

    I have a degree(s) and little or no student loan debt.

    ​I always meet my financial needs and
    all or most financial wants.

    ​I own or lease my relatively new/nice/dependable vehicle(s).

    I can easily  spend money on items, services, experiences, or vacations, without financial uncertainty, debt, or burden.

    I almost always have sufficient health and mobility to work, travel, and live well.

    I have family or chosen family (friends) who support my dreams, and even give me money, lodging, or other tangible support when I need it. And I can always be generous with them in return.

    I am Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color (BIPOC), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, but I desire and can afford to specifically support BIPOC clients. I want them to know they have chosen family. I might even want them to know me by name.

    I am Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Two-Spirit, Intersex, Asexual, or other identity that falls outside of cisgender and heteronormative paradigms (LGBTQ2IA+), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, but I desire and can afford to specifically support LGBTQ2IA+ clients. I want them to know they have chosen family. I might even want them to know me by name.

    I am honored to engage at this level and will pay more to receive ALL your expertise regardless of how our sessions are classified.

  • Choose this option if many of the following apply to you and perhaps a partner who has the same:
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    I have a sufficient degree of earning power, income, and/or wealth due to my family, marriage, education, gender / gender identity / sexual orientation, race, age, ability, or other privilege.

    ​​I earned or otherwise have money, home(s), land, or other wealth.

    I have a fairly secure job/income
    and health insurance.

    ​I own or rent my home(s), or someone else pays for it, and I easily pay the utilities, property taxes, and/or upkeep.

    I have some savings, investments, retirement accounts. 

    I have a degree(s) and manageable student loan debt.

    ​I always meet my financial needs and many financial wants.

    ​​I own, lease, or easily pay a loan on my vehicle(s).

    ​I can usually  spend money on items, services, experiences, or vacations, without financial uncertainty, debt, or burden.

    I usually have sufficient health and mobility to work, travel, and live well.

    ​I have family or chosen family (friends) who support my dreams, and even give me money, lodging, or other tangible support when I need it. And ​I can sometimes be generous with them in return.

    I am Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color (BIPOC), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, but I feel empowered paying full price in solidarity with this framework.

    I am Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Two-Spirit, Intersex, Asexual, or other identity that falls outside of cisgender and heteronormative paradigms (LGBTQ2IA+), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, but I feel empowered paying full price in solidarity with this framework.

  • Choose this option if many of the following apply to you.

    I have an average or below-average
    degree of earning power, income, and/or wealth due to my family, marriage, education, gender / gender identity / sexual orientation, race, age, (dis)ability, illness, and/or trauma history. I do not have a partner, or they are in a similar or worse position.

    ​​​I have no assets or am barely making payments on my assets.

    I barely have an income and/or am living paycheck to paycheck. I do not have health insurance and/or have significant medical expenses not covered by insurance. I do not have a partner, or they are in a similar or worse position.

    I barely have housing stability.

    ​I have little savings, investments, or retirement accounts. I do not have a partner, or they are in a similar or worse position.

    I was among the first in my family to go to college and/or I have significant​ student loan debt. I do not have a partner, or they are in a similar or worse position.
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    I am barely able to meet my financial needs. I am ​sometimes able to meet my financial wants.

    ​I either do not own a car or it is not reliable.
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    ​I can rarely  spend money on items, services, experiences, or vacations, without financial uncertainty, debt, or burden.

    rarely have sufficient health and mobility to work, travel, and live well.

    ​I do not have any or much family or chosen family (friends) who support my dreams, and even give me money, lodging, or other tangible support when I need it. I can rarely  be
    generous with others.

    I am Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color (BIPOC), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, so I cannot or do not want to pay full price.

    I am Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Two-Spirit, Intersex, Asexual, or other identity that falls outside of cisgender and heteronormative paradigms (LGBTQ2IA+), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, so I cannot or do not want to pay full price.

    I will pay this fee for the services I receive from you and I will pay less if even that is beyond me. I will let you know if I need a later due date or payment plan, without shame. I will pay more than this amount IF I can, in solidarity with this framework.

  • Choose this option if many of the following apply to you OR if you are a fellow worker!

    I have a low degree of or no earning power, income, and/or wealth due to my family, marriage, education, gender / gender identity / sexual orientation, race, age, (dis)ability, illness, incarceration, immigration, and/or intergenerational trauma history. I do not have a partner, or they are in a similar or worse position.

    I have no assets.

    ​​I do not have an income and/or health insurance. I do not have a partner, or they are in a similar or worse position.

    I do not have housing stability, and/or recently experienced some form of literal homelessness.

    ​I have no savings, investments, or retirement accounts.
    I do not have a partner, or they are in a similar or worse position.

    ​​I do not have a college degree.

    ​​I am barely able to meet my financial needs. I am ​never able to meet my financial wants.

    ​I do not own a car.

    I can never  spend money on items, services, experiences, or vacations, without financial uncertainty, debt, or burden.

    almost never have sufficient health and mobility to work, travel, and live well.

    I do not have any or much family or chosen family (friends) who support my dreams, and even give me money,
    lodging, or other tangible support when I need it. I can never  be
    generous with others, which impacts my ability to even have friends.
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    ​I am Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color (BIPOC), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, so I need or feel empowered choosing the Reparations rate.

    I am Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Two-Spirit, Intersex, Asexual, or other identity that falls outside of cisgender and heteronormative paradigms (LGBTQ2IA+), and thus face barriers to much of the above access, so I need or feel empowered choosing the Reparations rate.

    ​I will pay this fee for the services I receive from you. I will pay less if even that is beyond me. I will let you know if I need a later due date or payment plan, without shame. I will pay more than this amount IF I can and still feel empowered by this framework.

Local Dates (Philly)

  • 1.5 - 2 hours

    Looking for a get together? This is a great option for a first meeting if you want to grab a coffee or snack and get to know me - we’ll go at your pace for whatever happens after.

    Equipped Single: $650

    Balanced: $500

    Supported: $375

    Reparations: $250

  • 3-5 hours

    Let’s cozy up on a romantic dinner date, do a puzzle in our PJs in front of a fire, or go on an outdoor adventure and enjoy each other’s company in every sense.

    Whether you’re wanting a home cooked meal paired with a curated cocktail, or a night out on the town, I’m here to give you the evening of your dreams.

    Some of my favorite experiences are:

    • Checking a bucket list item off your list (I love adventures!)

    • Cooking classes

    • Food markets

    • Rock climbing

    • History / Science / Art Museums

    • Live music (jazz, soul, classical, EDM, house, Afro)

    • Theatre shows

    • Local restaurants and small businesses

    • Mani / pedi date

    • Spa time

    • Wildlife / animal shelters

    • Picnics

    • Live Lectures

    Equipped: $1000

    Balanced: $800

    Supported: $600

    Reparations: $400

  • 12 hours

    Let me enjoy you to the fullest, taking my time to get to know the details and cuddles afterwards :)

    Requires one meal and social time - some of my favorite experiences are:

    • Checking a bucket list item off your list (I love adventures!)

    • Cooking classes

    • Food markets

    • Rock climbing

    • History / Science / Art Museums

    • Live music (jazz, soul, classical, EDM, house, Afro)

    • Theatre shows

    • Local restaurants and small businesses

    • Mani / pedi date

    • Spa time

    • Wildlife / animal shelters

    • Picnics

    • Live Lectures

    Equipped: $2,500

    Balanced: $2,000

    Supported: $1,500

    Reparations: $1,000

Dungeons

  • 4 hours

    BDSM scenes takes time, negotiation, buildup, and aftercare. Each scene requires these elements and will never be skipped.
    This is what you’ve dreamed about- let’s make it come true.

    Some experiences that I’m particularly good at curating include:

    Impact (Flogging, Canes, Paddles, PVC, Spanking)

    Bondage (Handcuffs, restraints, duct tape, cuffs, etc)

    Pet Play (Puppy, Piggy, etc)

    ABDL

    Body Worship

    Pegging / Strapping

    Golden Showers

    Anal Training

    Findom

    Humiliation

    Degradation

    Electricity

    Wax Play

    Sensory Play

    Sensory Deprivation

    Consensual Non Consent (CNC)

    Equipped: $1875

    Balanced: $1500

    Supported: $1,125

    Reparations: $750

Not in Philly?

  • Can I get to you by train? This covers my train travel fees for cities along the East Coast (New York, DC, Richmond) up to 2 hours away.

  • I know what you’re thinking - dear god, will this human be coming my way anytime soon? Guess what, I navigate airports like a pro and I’ll gladly come to you for an adventure.

    • Must be a Minimum Dinner Date (3-5 hours)

Etiquette

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  • If this is your first time reaching out for professional companionship, congratulations!

    You’ve already proven to have more courage than most.

    The first step is always the hardest and it’s totally normal to feel nervous.

    My advice for first-timers centers around basic self-care.

    -Make sure you’re hydrated, nourished, and well-rested.

    -Avoid intoxicating substances leading up to your session.

    -Do some research about your desired activities so you have an idea of what to expect

    -If you anticipate anal play in your session, make sure to prepare properly.

    -Try to schedule plenty of time to rest and process your experience after the session.

    A little preparation goes a long way towards having a great first experience!

  • A 50% deposit is required for all travel bookings ; 20% deposit is required for all local bookings.

    Deposits can be made via:

    Cash App: $AlexxxWilde

    Paypal:paypal.me/YourAlexWilde

    Your appointment will not be secured on My calendar until the deposit is received.

  • I require a minimum 48 hours notice for all cancellations (7 days for FMTY). With appropriate notice, your deposit can be applied to a rescheduled booking within the next 3 months.

    For cancellations within the 48 hour window, I require a 50% cancellation fee.

    For FMTY cancelled within the 7 day window, your deposit will be forfeit.

  • I practice excellent hygiene and expect you to do the same. That means freshly showered, teeth brushed and flossed, tongue scraped, lotion applied, hair brushed, nails clean and neat, deodorant applied and appropriate for the occasion clothing.

    Please do NOT douse yourself in cologne or perfume as I am sensitive to strong smells.

  • I require a valid photo ID as part of my screening process. This is non-negotiable. Safety is of the utmost importance to Me.

    If we are planning on engaging in a BDSM driven scene, I make sure to go over the risks of each activity before engaging in it with My submissive. I also take any health conditions and physical injuries into consideration when planning and executing each scene.

    Consent is mandatory. If there isn’t clear, ongoing consent then that’s a red flag! I have a conversation at the beginning of each session with My submissive to identify hard limits and gauge the areas of greater interest. Even when partaking in edge play such as Consensual Non-Consent (CNC), clear consent is still mandatory throughout the scene.

    I prefer using the “Green-Yellow-Red” system for communicating consent during sessions together.

    ”Green” means “I love this, keep going”

    “Yellow” means “You’re reaching my limit and I need you to slow down, but stay engaged in the scene. No need to stop.”

    “Red” means “Stop what you’re doing and check in.” The scene may be over after this or continue on, based on the checkin conversation we have. Red can be used to stop for any reason - physically, emotionally or mentally.

  • Safety is my number one priority.

    Alcohol in slight moderation is allowed (such as a glass or two of wine at dinner), but ANY signs of intoxication will give me the right to refuse and cancel our time together without a refund.

    No hard substances will be allowed on our date.

    This policy is set purely with safety in mind.

    It do not discriminate against people who use intoxicating substances.

  • Rates are for my time and companionship only. Anything beyond that is between two consenting adults. Let’s practice sharing and asking for what we desire!

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